Neurodivergence And Trying For A Baby

I have been trying to get pregnant for a long time.

When we first started trying, I researched every single book I could find on getting pregnant, pregnancy and childbirth. It became my special interest and suddenly my hyperfocus could not lend itself to anything but learning about human reproduction.

Most of them… were utter shite. Medicalised, westernised, patriarchal BS focused on controlling pregnant people, removing all agency from them and putting the foetus above them at every turn. I couldn’t believe the level of chastisement, judgement and outright harmful advice given by these supposed ‘experts’. This was before I had embarked on my journey of decolonisation and neuro-embodiment, and I was unaware of how deeply colonial norms penetrate every area of life, especially reproduction! I won’t bother listing the crap books I read (they are the most popular ones…) but while we’re here I will give a shout out to Expecting Better - a book written by an economist which lays out all the data you need about every step of the journey. It’s genuinely helpful and seeks to put you in control of your body and your decisions, without judgement.