Stop Explaining, Be Misunderstood

The power of communicating less and allowing others to misconstrue you.

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AJ Singh
May 14, 2025

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I have spent my entire speaking life explaining myself.

Explaining why I am doing something.

Explaining why I need something.

Explaining all the context behind a request.

Explaining why I am not doing something.

Explaining why I am saying ‘no’.

Explaining, explaining, explaining…

For some time I have been noticing how much energy and joy this eternal explaining takes from me. I have made a concerted effort (the irony that something that is supposed to give me energy takes work!) to reduce my volunteered explanations. And something interesting has happened.

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